I’ve been blessed with lots of great friends. I’ve known some of them for more than 20 years. These people provide safety, support, encouragement, correction… Yet there are times when I still feel alone and unknown.
How can this be possible? What am I missing? How have i made a mistake? What should I be doing to further deepen my connections?
Sometimes, nothing can be done in these moments of isolation:
Proverbs 14:10: “Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can share its joy.”
For me personally, these times serve to push me into greater reliance and surrender on God. He is the one who searches our hearts and knows us fully. For me, this is a tangible expression that my human relationships, as great as they are, will never be completely satisfying.
Longing for the presence of God is the only answer, because he is the one who fills, he is the one who satisfies in a way human relationships never will.
This teaching isn’t an excuse to pull back, we must be working to love and serve one another. But at the end of the day, seeking his kingdom is what provides for all of our needs…not great relationships with other believers.
We need strong community, we need to build biblical fellowship into our lives. But not at the expense of knowing and being known by God.
What if God was the rock in my life, my fortress? When the loneliness comes, the answer is not to fill up the silence with mere noise. Instead we must run to him and rely on him more than anyTHING or anyONE else.
Where does your fellowship fall short? What do you do in these moments?