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Two destructive forces within us make true community difficult. We are born with strong desires to (1) be liked and (2) get our way.
These drives make it difficult to tell the truth. When we love to be loved (when we love, too much, to be loved), we’ll tell people what they want to hear. The cost is telling them what they need to hear. When we want to get our way, we’ll tell people anything they will believe in order to leverage them to our agenda.
(Agendas aren’t bad, everyone has an agenda, good leaders have great agendas. It’s hidden agendas that are insidiously destructive.)
These drives also make it difficult to show grace. The fear of rejection and sting of defeat leads to judging others. If they don’t like me, I better catalogue all their faults. If they won’t help me achieve my goals, they obviously have something wrong with them.
A commitment to honesty and grace is a commitment to set aside flattery and manipulation.
When we have a problem with someone, let’s say it…let’s say it after we’ve already forgiven the person. Have grace before you have their apology.
When you are confronted, accept it gracefully…forgive the other person, and forgive yourself. Holding on to guilt doesn’t help anyone and it doesn’t “even the scales.”
You can’t say everything you think, it must be tested. You can’t say everything that has been tested, there must be a good chance of it being heard. We must become a team who wants to hear the truth, even if it’s painful.
QUESTION: how does this post personally challenge your leadership? That may be a tough one to respond to publicly! (but we’ll still give it a shot)
My knowledge of the Spartans is limited to a handful of awesomely bad action movies that are awesome.
When the soldiers fight together, the shield of one dude protects the person next to him–and this is repeated all they way down the line. The individuals band together and become a single entity: united and loyal to one another.
A unified team works together. Everyone is on the same page and moving forward together. Strategic unity means everyone is working toward the same goals and objectives.
A loyal team cares about the welfare of others on the team. When one is hurting, the others notice and respond. When one is successful, everyone is excited as if it was his or her victory. Competition is never more than anything other than a joke because loyalty overcomes insecurity. Loyalty stands up to complaints and gossip, encouraging the outsider to talk to the source of their frustration.
QUESTION: why do you think unity and loyalty are important? What happens when these values are missing from a team?
This is a list of the values I have for our team, these reflect the kind of team I want to build:
UNITY & LOYALTY
HONESTY & GRACE
HUMILITY & SERVANTHOOD
INITIATIVE & OWNERSHIP
PRIDE & EXCELLENCE
RELATIONAL & CARING
WISDOM & DISCERNMENT
LAUGHTER & CELEBRATION
QUESTION: I’ll flesh these out over the next few weeks. Until then, what’s missing from the list? What do you like to create in your teams? Or, if you aren’t leading a team, what have you experienced that you feel is integral to your team’s success.